Thursday, August 9, 2018

Melanie On Wheels




Melanie On Wheels


What does it mean to live on wheels? The cliché seems obvious: like a rolling stone, ready to roll, commitment-phobia, just can’t make up her blasted mind. So maybe that’s me in my mid-sixties. I like to think of it as ‘ready for anything’, ‘prepared for what the universe has to offer’, continuing in the theme of ‘untethered’.

Once I finished my walk-about in December of 2016, after 6 months on the road in my Prius, all over the U.S., there was still no settling down for me. I needed something to bite into that would be a great challenge with a usable product at the end: something to keep the adventure going with lots of room for new developments.

I joined the movement of the enthralled: Tiny House Mania. There is almost nothing I’ve found that perks up peoples’ interest so much as the words ‘Tiny House’. We have to wonder what it is that makes us so fascinated with living small. Some yearning to make more sense in this crazy world, to simplify down to the bare necessities? Or the vicarious curiosity that arises watching someone else do it? Or the disbelief that 120 square feet could possibly be enough?

For me it was the prospect of putting all of my building experience to work in one manageable effort, and testing that experience to see what I actually knew, all by myself. Yes, I’d done a lot of building, but, as with everything in my life with Ben, I relied on his wisdom and experience, coupled with my own, to figure things out. Now I would figure things out under my own steam: a ‘great challenge’.

But let me be truthful, I also want the ability to easily move near my two girls. They are my magnets at this point, more compelling than friends or beautiful location. My brother has the luxury of having two daughters who very purposefully located near him and his wife. The three families are immersed in each other’s lives. My sister has a family compound where son and grandchildren are but steps away. Since Ben died that sense of family has been harder to feel, so I have gone looking for it. My Tiny House keeps me flexible and able to find the right location on an orbit around Ariel. I have to be patient until Kiva comes back from Australia so that I can find the sweet spot that puts me near both.

And then there’s just the unknown wonder that is inherent in the Tiny Home phenomenon: what’ll it be like, will I go stir crazy, can I have a smaller footprint? Having lived in a 10 x 10 foot cabin back in the 70’s with Ben, no running water, electricity or bathroom, a Tiny House almost seems luxurious. And the 6 months in my Prius set me up well for smallness, efficiency and careful storage. But day after day of winter rain could stretch the limits of my tolerance.





I have Gemini to thank for siting my build in Canterbury. “Mel, if you build it in Canterbury, I’ll help and I’ll drive it out to California.” Of course Canterbury was the perfect place to build it, surrounded by old friends, capable friends, with the spot to place it next to the shop Ben and I had built 40 years earlier. Russel was the perfect host to welcome me and make me feel completely wanted for 6 months, there in the middle of his front yard. 








And Jill and Tim were the perfect home to join in, my friends 
of 45 years.


The decision to take on this enterprise was the easiest one to make. And it has been the most fun project I’ve ever taken part in. Despite sweat, and mistakes and frustrations (there will be cursing!), I loved every minute of it. There’s more to tell.


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